Here's a list of things I want you to see and this concerns love as well as how we perceive ourselves.
I'm linking to the people who delivered these talks so you can read their brief description and get an idea of what they'll be saying, where they're coming from. The videos of their talks are then on the right side of the same page. Even if you can't watch, do read what's there on those pages.
http://www.ted.com/speakers/tony_porter.html - makes a call to men everywhere: Don't act like a man. He pretty much sums up all the issues I have with people of my gender.
http://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown.html - studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. Her talks turned my perceptions of weakness and strength upside down and resolved several nagging doubts I had.
http://www.ted.com/speakers/helen_fisher.html - gives an awesome insight into love and relationships. I STILL think it's just not fair and some things need serious thought and work.