There are times in life when some people you know may not like to be held accountable for
their mistakes; and they do not like to apologize for them either. They
think doing so will weaken them.
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When you show them their errors, bring out the truth that they didn't know earlier,
And ask them to resolve the problem, undo their mistakes, clear out their
prejudices and apologize to the people they have wronged so there are no
more hard feelings,
They tell you to "move on" or "get lost" or "get a life" or worst of all - ignore
you completely - and go back into their tiny little shells.
How are you supposed to explain to them that it's
them who's not moving on, by clinging on to a wrong belief, a prejudice, by hiding in the shadows and refusing to face the light?
How can you convey to them that the true path of moving forward is to uncover the truth and acknowledge it?
How can you remind them that fate is never kind to those who had no honor or accountability?
How
can you explain them that the true measure of strength is to stand up
and be accountable for everything you do, instead of dodging and telling
the wronged person to "move on" or "get lost" ?
How
can you warn them that what goes around comes around? That if they keep
this up, someday someone they care for may develop the same
misconceptions about them, ruin what was good and pure and then order
them to "move on" ?
If you never really cared about
these people, if they meant absolutely nothing to you, it wouldn't
really matter. But what if you do care? What if they are like family to you?
What if they mean the world to you? What if you don't want them to have to endure the same trauma they have mistakenly put someone else through? What if you want them to become better people instead of
regressing?
Aren't we social beings? Aren't we supposed to
look out for each other? Is it wrong to care for your own?
No, it's not. It's what makes us human.
So why do they admonish the one who tries to
help them come around, who is trying to show them the truth?
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I know it's not considered nice to tell people what they don't want to hear,
But I also know this : There is a difference between what someone wants, and what he/she needs.
If you can look beyond the wants and perceive the needs, you have a chance to really help someone.
Wants
will keep changing with time, don't worry about it. Keep giving them
what they need, what everybody needs - the truth. Hopefully, one day they'll learn to listen, respond, and then you
can truly Move On.
PS:- Finally may find time today for Sugar in the Milk Part-2; stay tuned!