Wednesday, November 23, 2016

The I-dont-know-who-to-trust syndrome

You've been believing A since some time now.

A had told you some really bad things about B, and said you should
never trust B. And trusting A, you stayed well away from B all this
time.

But suddenly some new information has emerged, in a separate matter,
which puts your trust in A in question. It has turned out that A had
betrayed your trust and has been lying to you.

So now you no longer trust A.

When asked who do you trust, you say "Oh, it's all so complicated, I
don't know who to trust anymore".

But wait a minute. What about B?

"Oh, I can't trust B, no way!"

But who told you that B can't be trusted?

A.

Doesn't the fact that you can't trust A anymore, lead to the
possiblity that whatever A told you about B might also have had some
falsehoods?

It would be foolish of course to blindly go to the opposite extreme
and blindly trust B suddenly. But what if your learned,
indoctrinated-by-A complete aversion to B needs a re-evaluation?

What if you need to re-look into what B has been telling, with a fresh
set of eyes?

What if A's deception had included painting an ugly image of B and
preventing you and B from finding common ground together?

Then by resorting to "I don't know who to trust anymore" instead of
re-examining your aversion towards B, aren't you still making A win in
their game of deception, even after having known that A is fraudulent?

What / who have been the As and Bs in your life?

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